Tuesday, March 5, 2013

Roller Coaster

Much time has passed since our last post.  I will try and cover the events chronologically.  In mid September, we received what our agency would call a lead referral for an 18 month old little girl named Veronique.  We were so excited to have positive news.  We told our agency to move forward  and sent approval for funds to cover the medical exam.  We were told it would take about 2-3 weeks to get results then we would get an official referral.  Two to three weeks passed and we still did not have any news.  Upon calling the agency, they found a mix up in communication and discovered that Veronique had yet to see a doctor.  So the 2-3 week wait started over.  During our waiting periods, we spoke with the social worker who did our home study.  We were due an update.  She advised for us to widen our age range due to our lead referral. At the time, our range was 0-24 months.  Considering that Veronique was already 18 months, we had to cover for the time that the adoption would take to finalize (6-9months).  On October 22nd, I was remembering my first miscarriage.  Although it had been 3 years, I will still emotional throughout the day.  After work that day, I received a call from my agent.  She had news, but it wasn't good.  We had lost the referral.  Another lawyer from perhaps a different agency had essentially offered the village where Veronique was discovered more money.  I was devastated to say the least.  I was angry. I felt like I was losing a baby all over again.  Why God?  Why would you let us get our hopes up then not come through? Why?    Questions I would soon know the answer to...

About four weeks later, we received another call from the agency.  They had two possible referrals.  One for a girl estimated at 2 1/2 to 3 years and one for a newborn baby girl (d.o.b. 10/25).  Considering that they were at opposite ends of our age range, they called to ask which child we would be interested in. My immediate reaction was BOTH.  Jason and I discussed it and agreed that we would pursue both referrals. We received our official referrals right before Thanksgiving so we were able to share pictures with family.  What a blessing!  For the next two months, we made big plans for the room they would share.  We had presents under the Christmas tree for them.  We waited all of January for their commune papers to come so that we could start the court proceedings.  By February, we had the oldest girl's papers and continued to wait for the baby's.  Then another call came...

About 3 weeks ago today, We received word that the baby's birth mom had shown up to take her child home.  This time a different reaction came.  My husband was blown away by my calmness (which is rare).  I didn't ask God questions.  I had an answer and I needed to accept it...  

I am thankful for this journey that I am on.  God is showing me his great mercy and love every step of the way.  I am finally learning that I have a choice...I have to decide whether I trust God or not.  If I trust Him then I find rest even when my circumstances seem like a roller coaster of events.   God is trustworthy and is faithful to his promises.  He set us on this path over two years ago and I know that He will see us through.  It may not be exactly how I envisioned it to be, but in the end I will not be disappointed.

"Consider it pure joy, my brothers, whenever you face trials of many kinds, because you know that the testing of your faith develops perseverance.  Perseverance must finish its work so that you may be mature and complete, not lacking anything."  James 1:2-4

"...The Lord is faithful to all his promises and loving toward all he has made" Psalm 145:13  

Please continue to pray for our family.  God is good!



  1. You guys don't know me, but I signed up for blog updates sometime last year as we were also feeling lead to adoption and thought that Congo may be where He was leading us. We have yet to get a home study for Congo. We do have for the state of AR that is due to be finished next month. We too are learning to trust and let go of preconceived ideas, and just be open to what He has. Just wanted to you to know that I feel for you, will pray for you today, and pray that your faith will continue to grow. I pray your walk with HIM will be more prosperous and wonderful than ever this year.

  2. Oh wow. Jessica. It's been too long since we've talked. Your story is incredible and a blessing.
    Christina M.